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91. Don’t be too available.

If a person you are dating has let a week gone by before calling you up to set up

another date, then you should not accept the invitation. This is because it could show

them that you are too available, or are desperate in going out. If a person thinks about

you that way, then he may begin to think about you in a negative way and come up with bad ideas.

92. Don’t be confrontational.

You might think that being confrontational or aggressive can make the other person

think that you are self reliant and self-assured. Although this is true, it is actually not a

good idea to make this kind of impression on your first few dates. This is because, the

other person may come to think that you would be using your aggressive behavior to

manipulate him or her.

93. What to do when your date is reluctant in answering your questions.

Asking the right questions is very important in order to gain the right information from

your date. However, if your date is having second thoughts in answering them, then

either he or she is hiding something from you, or is trying to come up with a lie. You

can’t date someone who is not an open book, since you might end up expecting

something that he or she cannot provide.

94. You can always say no.

It is quite understandable that you want to be agreeable in order to prevent

confrontations. However, you can always say no if you really disagree on something. By doing that, you are actually being honest to your date. Aside from that, it would let your date get to know you better, and would also encourage them to be themselves as well.

95. If you want honesty, be honest.

Since you want your date to be honest, you should also be honest yourself. Being

honest means that you are being yourself. By doing that, you are actually revealing

yourself to your date, and it is up to him or her to like you for it or not. When you are

honest, it may also encourage the other person to be honest as well. Besides, being

honest can also help you see if the other person is lying or is telling you the truth.

96. It is fine to be unsure on the first date.

If you are not so sure about the outcome of your first date and you are still willing to give it a try, then you should contact the other person 2 to 4 days later. Some people can take some time to become more comfortable with someone new. Thus, after a few

dates, you should be able to conclude whether you can start a relationship with your

date or not.

98. Don’t date just because your friends and family tell you so.

When you date just because your friends and family tell you so, then you are not being

true to yourself. This can lead you to dates that are not worth remembering, especially if you live it to them in setting you up with someone they know. Thus, it is best that you would go out on a date, because you really want to.

99. Choosing a site for online dating.

Online dating provides you a way to meet people that share your interests. In choosing

the site though, it is best that you do your research about it. By doing that, you would be ensuring that your information is safe. Aside from that, researching can also help you choose a site that would raise your potentials in finding the person you are meant to be with.

100. You don’t have to say that you love a person.

Only say the three magic words, when you really mean it. Thus, you don’t have to say it

when you truly appreciate the other person for his or her actions. Aside from that, even though you really think that you are falling for him or her, you should not say these words until you have begun building the first few blocks of your relationship.

101. What it means if your date tells you he or she loves you.

If a person tells you that he or she loves you, even when you are still at the first or

second date, then it can mean a lot of things. For instance, they may simply want to get you to bed, or are simply not evaluating their feelings well. Nevertheless, this means that he or she is speeding things up, instead of letting your relationship grow on a more natural pace.

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81. Pay attention.

Paying attention to your date is a must, if you want to make sure that you are indeed

dating someone who has no issues. Paying attention can help you identify signs, which

can tell you about the negative behavior of your potential partner. By doing this, you

would become more aware of the things that you need to consider, on deciding whether you want to see him or her again or not.

82. Stay away from your date’s home.

If it is still your first, second, third, or fourth date, you should stay away from your date’s home. This is because it is simply too soon to be invited over to a house, or inviting someone, unless you both want to go to the bedroom immediately, and it is your purpose of going out. If that is not the case though, only visit your date’s house when you are already in the latter stages of your relationship.

83. Be honest.

If you are really interested about the other person, then you should not hide it. Dating

should not be a game, since it can make you send out all the wrong messages. Instead,

you should be as honest as possible, so that your date can also see your true self. By

doing that, you would be able to build your relationship on the right path.

84. Show that you are interested.

Showing the other person that you are interested is a must, especially if you really are.

This is because it can build his or her self esteem, knowing that you may be looking

forward to seeing him or her again. With that, you both would become more excited in

seeing each other, and be able to enjoy each other’s company more.

85. Your mobile phone.

When you are on a date, one of the things that can annoy the other person is when you stop your conversation in order to answer a call, or read a text message. Therefore, you should turn off your mobile phone or put it in silent mode, prior to sitting in front of your date at the dining table. Just answer the messages when you go to the restroom.

86. Talking and listening.

Some people think that they need to talk a lot in order to impress their dates. However, you need to maintain a good balance in talking and listening when you are on a date. If you are doing most of the talking, then your date may not be interested in sharing some information to you or you simply are not giving them a chance to talk.

87. Talk about yourself positively.

You need to build yourself up in your date, so that you can sell yourself effectively.

Thus, you need to be aware of your positive traits. By doing that, you would be able to

talk about yourself in a more positive tone, which can impress the other person.

However, you need to be careful in doing it, so that you won’t become someone who is obnoxious.

88. Building your profile in online dating.

Since online dating is quite popular these days, then you should also take advantage of

it. When it comes to building up your profile, make sure to indicate whether you are

interested in a long term relationship or not. By doing this, you can effectively filter out

the persons who do not share the same goals as you do.

89. Tell a friend or a close relative that you are going on a date.

Since there are lots of crazy people these days, it is always a good idea to tell a friend

or a close relative about your date. You should tell them about the time and the venue

just to be on the safe side. To feel more secure though, you can always prefer to go on

a date in a more public venue.

90. You don’t have to research about your date’s ex.

One of the most important things in dating is to be yourself. Therefore, you should not

do your research about your date’s ex, since you may have a tendency to develop a

sense of insecurity because of that. Instead, focus on revealing your true self to your

date, so that he or she would be able to decide whether you are indeed the one that

they are looking for or not.

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71. Meet new people and make new experiences.

If you always go through the same daily routine that you are used to, even on

weekends, then you may not be able to get a date that could change your life. Thus,

you need to put some variety into your life, by going to new and interesting places,

where you could meet new people. By doing that, you won’t just be relying on your luck on scoring a date, but you are making things happen on your own.

72. To enjoy dating, you need to invest time and effort.

There may be times when you don’t feel like going out for a date. However, since you

have already set the time, and you don’t want to make a fool of someone else, then you need to do it. The date may not be that great, but there is also a good possibility that it would. Therefore, aside from investing time and effort, you should also take a chance.

73. Don’t expect too much from people.

When you expect too much from your date, you may end up getting disappointed about him or her. The best way to do it is to not expect anything from someone, which you are not also capable of doing by yourself. Aside from that, it is best to expect less from them, so that you would get surprised when your date does something great that you are not expecting.

74. Getting to know your date.

Getting to know your date is one of the best things that you can do, in order to see if you can really build a lasting relationship with them. Thus, you need to ask questions about what your date believes in, what he or she is planning for her life, what his or her goals are, and more. Aside from asking questions though, you should also observe if they are living the way they say they are.

75. Don’t be too fast in writing off somebody.

If you are not able to hit it off right away on your first date, there is no need to write off somebody right away. This is because, it is very possible that you or your date may not be comfortable with you yet. In most cases, it takes around 2 or 3 dates, before you could get a sense, whether you are really interested in the person or not.

76. Never force yourself to liking someone.

Forcing yourself to liking someone is never a good idea, unless you simply want to try it

out. It does not mean that if your date is the nicest one you have went out with that you

should like him. This is because being nice is not the only requirement for a relationship to grow. You also need to share common interests and values, so that you can agree on lots of things.

77. Lazy communication.

There are certain persons who communicate only through text, emails, or instant

messages. If you want a more open relationship, then you should avoid these types of

persons. This is because these ones usually do not want to reveal themselves to other

individuals. Aside from that, they may also become lazy on their relationships.

78. Can the other person give you what you want in a relationship?

This is a question that you need to ask to yourself, especially when you have taken

further steps in your relationship, after dating a number of times. This is because you

want to make sure that you are investing on something that is worth every minute of

your time. Aside from that, it can also prevent you from expecting too much from

someone.

79. Be careful in telling your date about your past relationships.

Your first and second dates are not the best times in telling your date about your past

relationships. This is because it can make the other person be bored with all your past

stories. You should know that your date is interested in you, and not your past. Aside

from that, your information about your past relationships should not be shared to

someone whom you do not trust fully yet.

80. Going to movies.

Watching movies should not be done on your first few dates. This is because these

dates should be the stage where you want to get to know each other well. When you go inside the movie theater, on top of being too dark, it won’t allow you to talk to each other well. In relation to this, on these first few dates, you should do something, which

involves lots of interaction.

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61. You are not in a relationship yet on your first date.

This is one of the most important things that you need to remember when you go on

your first date. You are not in a relationship yet, since you don’t know each other that

well. Thus, put some boundaries when it comes to sharing stories. Aside from that, you

should also avoid acting like you are your date’s girlfriend or boyfriend, since that would just scare them off.

62. Know your limits.

You limits can sometimes tell you who you really are. Therefore, it is best that you

become more aware of it. Aside from that, when you know what your limits are, you can always do something in order to go beyond it. Just make sure that you stay within the boundaries, so that you could still be able to portray the person that you really are.

63. You are worthy.

If you are awed by the presence of your date, you should take control of yourself, by

knowing that you are indeed worthy to be his or her date. By doing this, you can

become more confident of yourself. Aside from that, if you end up having a relationship with that particular person, it would create a balance between you, which is also very important.

64. Enjoying dating does not mean you have to be blind.

You don’t need to be blind in order to enjoy dating. Many people have a tendency to

meet the needs of others, in which they become blind and forget to see their own

needs. Thus, it creates an imbalance in a relationship, which is not healthy. Therefore,

you should always keep an open ear and an open mind in having a relationship. This

way, you would be able to have a relationship, which is not one sided.

65. It is not a requirement for you to be interested when someone is interested in you.

You could easily tell if your date is genuinely interested in you. However, this does not

mean that you also need to become interested in him or her. When a person shows an

interest in you, you don’t need to reciprocate it, if you don’t want to. This is because if

you force yourself into doing that, you would just be lying to yourself, and be misleading the other person.

66. Finding your type.

When a person says that his or her “type” is this or that, it means that he or she has

some preconceived ideas about the person who he or she is attracted to. However, if

dating your “type” does not provide you a fulfilling and healthy relationship, then you

should let go of your preconceived ideas, and become more open minded about dating.

67. Don’t date someone who only communicates through text.

If someone is talking or communicating to you only through text messages, then it is

best not to stay in constant communication with them anymore. This is because, in most cases, he or she is seeing you as someone who is good for just a booty call. Thus, it is best to go out with persons who respect you enough to contact you by giving you a call.

68. Do your research.

No matter how the other person shows you how he or she is interested in you, in which he or she initiates the first steps to get into a date with you, you should not be

complacent, and still do your research. This is because, you don’t really know what their intentions are. With thorough research, you can feel safer in dating the person, aside from the fact that it can also help you see whether he is attached or not.

69. Ask questions.

Before going into your third date, you should know whether a person is still trying to get over an ex, is married, or has just been separated. To achieve that, you need to ask

questions regarding all of these. If you can’t do it on your first date, then make sure to

do it on the second date so that you are assured that you are not wasting your time on

him or her.

70. Don’t cloud your judgment.

If you focus too much on the achievements of a person or how much the person is

earning on a monthly basis, it can lead you to make incorrect conclusions about people. Thus, you need to look pass that, so that you would be able to see what the person is really made of. Talk to your date and listen attentively, so that you can see the real person inside.

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51. No sex talks.

No sex talks should be a rule that you need to follow, especially in first dates. This is

because first and second dates are usually the time when you get to know the other

person, who can be your potential boyfriend or girlfriend. Talking about sex might give

the wrong impression about your intentions, which can make the other person feel

uncomfortable.

52. Be nice.

Being nice can mean a lot of things, especially for a guy. Nice can mean desirable,

normal, presentable, trustable, helpful, or friendly; and, lots of women are actually on

the lookout for the nice guys. Thus, taking note of these things can help you make a

good impression on your dates.

53. What to do with your apartment.

Whether you are a boy or a girl, you need to come up with an apartment that makes you look more mature, especially if you are approaching a stage, where you are planning to invite your date inside. The apartment should be tidy and clean, and it should be free from posters. Instead, decorate your apartment in a more mature way, and get it organized well, so that you can impress your date.

54. Calling him or her.

If he or she gives you their contact number after a date, you should not call them a day

after. Calling just a day after your date is too soon, which can scare your date away. It

gives an impression that you are too eager in listening to his or her voice. Thus, it is

best if you give him or her a call only after 2 to 4 days after you meet them for the first

time.

55. Make memories.

If you are dating the girl of your dreams, make sure to do something that would make

memories. You might be glad that you were able to strike a stimulating conversation

with her at the bar, but it may not be enough for your date to be memorable. To achieve that, you should do something different, such as bringing her to the zoo, to a circus, or even just a nice walk in the park.

56. Dating is discovering.

Dating is actually a stage in a relationship where you would begin to discover certain

things about an individual. Thus, it is best that you have a good conversation with your

date, so that you would be able to know him or her better. Knowing your date better

would offer you a chance to see if you really are compatible or not.

57. Sharing common values.

Dating can provide you a chance to know whether you and your date share common

values. Although sexual chemistry and sharing common interests are two important

things to get started on a relationship, sharing common values is much more important, since it can cultivate a more lasting relationship. Thus, it is best that you take advantage of dating to find out more about it.

58. Dating is not something like a vocation.

Dating is not a vocation. Therefore, one of your main objectives in dating should be to

have fun in meeting new people. It is not something that you need to do in order to have a life. Although there are lots of things that you need to take note of when it comes to dating, it shouldn’t be treated as something that you really need to perform well on. Thus, have some fun, so that you can be yourself in dating.

59. Never date when you are not over your ex.

If you are not over your ex yet, then you should not go on dates. This is because your

emotions can end up destroying all your dates. You might engage into self-pity while

you are talking with your dates, aside from talking all about your ex and his or her

shortcomings. Thus, make sure that you are completely over your ex prior to dating, so

that your potential partners won’t avoid you.

60. Online dating is just one of your options in meeting people.

Many people today engage into online dating, especially those who are quite busy with

their own careers. However, online dating should just be viewed as a way to increasing

your chances of meeting more people whom you may be able to date. Thus, it is just

one of the many options that you have when it comes to that. You should still go out,

and meet new people personally, so that you can have a more interesting life.

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41. Learn how to read palms.

Becoming a palm reader can impress your date, aside from the fact that it can give you

a chance to hold her hands. Reading your date’s palms would create a more relaxed

atmosphere, between you and her. Thus, it can pave the way to more interesting

conversations. Aside from that, it can also make her more comfortable of the fact that

you are touching her.

42. Be polite but don’t overdo it.

Although opening doors to a woman is indeed a polite thing to do, it is best that you

don’t overdo it. This is because women today do not want to feel like they are helpless

persons. Thus, it is best if you do it with caution from this day on, so that you won’t be

offending your date, by being too polite.

43. Business cards.

If you want your dates to have something that he or she can remember you with, then

you should bring with you a number of business cards when you go out with them.

Although the best thing to do to be remembered well is to impress your date, having

business cards can also provide a unique impression.

44. Doing little things.

If you have been dating someone for quite some time already and you want to make

him or her feel special, then you should do little things for your date. Giving her a flower from time to time, or treating him for a snack would go a long way, as far as cultivating your relationship is concerned.

45. Never stalk.

When you have gone out with a person whom you really like and you want to see him or her more, it is not a good idea to stalk them. This is because, it can become quite

uncomfortable for a person to see his or her date, on every place that they visit. If you

want to see your date more, then you should establish contact with them, and see if he or she is still interested.

46. Dancing.

Learning how to dance would give you lots of benefits, aside from gaining a more

flexible body. It can actually help in impressing your date. A man can easily become

impressed if he sees that his potential partner is a good dancer, since it shows him how

sexy she can be. Aside from that, dancing with each other can create a more

comfortable environment between the two persons.

47. The things you need to know on the first date.

There are lots of things that you need to know about your date on the first time you go

out with them. One of which would be his or her dislikes, since it can save you

headaches. Aside from that, it is very important to know if he or she is currently involved with someone or is married, so that you would know if he or she is worth your time.

48. Starting or keeping a conversation going.

There are lots of things that you can say in order to start or keep a conversation going.

One of the things that you can do is to compliment her. Aside from that, you can also

ask your date about how their day went by. Moreover, asking questions, especially

those that may require your date an explanation about his or her answer is also a good

idea.

49. Making compliments.

For a man, making compliments on the woman he is dating is one of the best ways to

make her feel appreciated. This is because women in most cases, share a fear about

not being attractive on certain occasions. Therefore, if you want to make your date more comfortable with you, then you should compliment how her hair looks like, how her perfume smells so good, and such.

50. Be successful.

If you have gone through a good number of dates already, you would realize that in

most cases, topics in a conversation can include where you have been, what you have

achieved, and many more. Thus, if you have attained success in life, then there is a

good chance that your date would be impressed by your life story.

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31. You are serious about your future.

When you show your date that you are serious about your future, then it provides them with reassurance that you can also be serious about them. Although your date may not be looking for a long term relationship, it is still best if you treat him or her as someone who could be your potential partner, especially if you really like them.

32. Be someone your date can introduce to her parents.

If you are serious about your date, then you should give him or her an impression that

you are worthy to be introduced to your date’s parents. This means that you need to

become presentable, by dressing and behaving appropriately. This does not mean that

you need to become too serious though. Telling a joke or two would definitely make you more comfortable with each other.

33. Never interrupt.

Interrupting someone while he or she is talking is not a good idea, especially on a date.

Unless if you want to annoy your date, you should never interrupt while he or she is

talking, since it can be viewed as a sign of disrespect. Always let your date finish what

he or she is saying, so that you would also be able to understand what they are trying to say.

34. Don’t be a whiner.

When you are on a date, one of the worst things that you can do is to become a whiner. A whiner often complains about everything, and always tell his or herself that he or she is a loser. Being a whiner on a date is not just annoying, but it can make the other person wish that he or she did not go out with you after all.

35. Don’t be a crybaby.

A crybaby is someone who always talks about his or her past mistakes, problems, or

past relationship failures. More often than not, crybabies are looking for shoulders to

lean on. However, becoming a shoulder to lean on is not the main purpose of going on

a date. Thus, you can’t expect your date to offer you his or her shoulder once you vent

out of your feelings regarding your experiences in the past.

36. Let your date talk.

If you want your date to have a good time, then let them talk. People always appreciate it when someone asks for their opinion about something, in which they would enjoy talking about the reasons they say certain things are good or bad. To achieve this, all you actually have to do is to ask open-ended questions.

37. Be a friend to your date.

Becoming a friend to your date is not a bad idea, especially if you have already dated a

couple of times. When you become an understanding friend to your date, then he or she will be grateful about it. To be a friend to your date, you simply need to listen to them whenever they need to vent out their emotions about certain things.

38. Trust.

Lots of people do not open up too much or invest too much emotions on their dates or

potential partners. This is because, they are afraid of getting hurt, or they were hurt

before. Thus, it is best that you become a person whom your date can trust. By doing

that, you would become closer to your date, once he or she gains more trust in you.

39. Touching your date.

For a man, if his date touches him, he can interpret it as something positive. However,

for women, touching them on the first date may not be a good idea, because some may become offended by it. Only touch a woman when she becomes more comfortable with you, in which you already engage into dancing, or if she touches you when you tell jokes.

40. Mysterious.

Some people love dating a mysterious person since they love to slowly uncover things

about him or her, as they go on more dates; and, this is especially true to most women. Being mysterious means that you give your date an idea about what you are, but you are not going into more details about it. It leaves them a feeling of hanging, in which they would want to know you more.