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71. Meet new people and make new experiences.

If you always go through the same daily routine that you are used to, even on

weekends, then you may not be able to get a date that could change your life. Thus,

you need to put some variety into your life, by going to new and interesting places,

where you could meet new people. By doing that, you won’t just be relying on your luck on scoring a date, but you are making things happen on your own.

72. To enjoy dating, you need to invest time and effort.

There may be times when you don’t feel like going out for a date. However, since you

have already set the time, and you don’t want to make a fool of someone else, then you need to do it. The date may not be that great, but there is also a good possibility that it would. Therefore, aside from investing time and effort, you should also take a chance.

73. Don’t expect too much from people.

When you expect too much from your date, you may end up getting disappointed about him or her. The best way to do it is to not expect anything from someone, which you are not also capable of doing by yourself. Aside from that, it is best to expect less from them, so that you would get surprised when your date does something great that you are not expecting.

74. Getting to know your date.

Getting to know your date is one of the best things that you can do, in order to see if you can really build a lasting relationship with them. Thus, you need to ask questions about what your date believes in, what he or she is planning for her life, what his or her goals are, and more. Aside from asking questions though, you should also observe if they are living the way they say they are.

75. Don’t be too fast in writing off somebody.

If you are not able to hit it off right away on your first date, there is no need to write off somebody right away. This is because, it is very possible that you or your date may not be comfortable with you yet. In most cases, it takes around 2 or 3 dates, before you could get a sense, whether you are really interested in the person or not.

76. Never force yourself to liking someone.

Forcing yourself to liking someone is never a good idea, unless you simply want to try it

out. It does not mean that if your date is the nicest one you have went out with that you

should like him. This is because being nice is not the only requirement for a relationship to grow. You also need to share common interests and values, so that you can agree on lots of things.

77. Lazy communication.

There are certain persons who communicate only through text, emails, or instant

messages. If you want a more open relationship, then you should avoid these types of

persons. This is because these ones usually do not want to reveal themselves to other

individuals. Aside from that, they may also become lazy on their relationships.

78. Can the other person give you what you want in a relationship?

This is a question that you need to ask to yourself, especially when you have taken

further steps in your relationship, after dating a number of times. This is because you

want to make sure that you are investing on something that is worth every minute of

your time. Aside from that, it can also prevent you from expecting too much from

someone.

79. Be careful in telling your date about your past relationships.

Your first and second dates are not the best times in telling your date about your past

relationships. This is because it can make the other person be bored with all your past

stories. You should know that your date is interested in you, and not your past. Aside

from that, your information about your past relationships should not be shared to

someone whom you do not trust fully yet.

80. Going to movies.

Watching movies should not be done on your first few dates. This is because these

dates should be the stage where you want to get to know each other well. When you go inside the movie theater, on top of being too dark, it won’t allow you to talk to each other well. In relation to this, on these first few dates, you should do something, which

involves lots of interaction.

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61. You are not in a relationship yet on your first date.

This is one of the most important things that you need to remember when you go on

your first date. You are not in a relationship yet, since you don’t know each other that

well. Thus, put some boundaries when it comes to sharing stories. Aside from that, you

should also avoid acting like you are your date’s girlfriend or boyfriend, since that would just scare them off.

62. Know your limits.

You limits can sometimes tell you who you really are. Therefore, it is best that you

become more aware of it. Aside from that, when you know what your limits are, you can always do something in order to go beyond it. Just make sure that you stay within the boundaries, so that you could still be able to portray the person that you really are.

63. You are worthy.

If you are awed by the presence of your date, you should take control of yourself, by

knowing that you are indeed worthy to be his or her date. By doing this, you can

become more confident of yourself. Aside from that, if you end up having a relationship with that particular person, it would create a balance between you, which is also very important.

64. Enjoying dating does not mean you have to be blind.

You don’t need to be blind in order to enjoy dating. Many people have a tendency to

meet the needs of others, in which they become blind and forget to see their own

needs. Thus, it creates an imbalance in a relationship, which is not healthy. Therefore,

you should always keep an open ear and an open mind in having a relationship. This

way, you would be able to have a relationship, which is not one sided.

65. It is not a requirement for you to be interested when someone is interested in you.

You could easily tell if your date is genuinely interested in you. However, this does not

mean that you also need to become interested in him or her. When a person shows an

interest in you, you don’t need to reciprocate it, if you don’t want to. This is because if

you force yourself into doing that, you would just be lying to yourself, and be misleading the other person.

66. Finding your type.

When a person says that his or her “type” is this or that, it means that he or she has

some preconceived ideas about the person who he or she is attracted to. However, if

dating your “type” does not provide you a fulfilling and healthy relationship, then you

should let go of your preconceived ideas, and become more open minded about dating.

67. Don’t date someone who only communicates through text.

If someone is talking or communicating to you only through text messages, then it is

best not to stay in constant communication with them anymore. This is because, in most cases, he or she is seeing you as someone who is good for just a booty call. Thus, it is best to go out with persons who respect you enough to contact you by giving you a call.

68. Do your research.

No matter how the other person shows you how he or she is interested in you, in which he or she initiates the first steps to get into a date with you, you should not be

complacent, and still do your research. This is because, you don’t really know what their intentions are. With thorough research, you can feel safer in dating the person, aside from the fact that it can also help you see whether he is attached or not.

69. Ask questions.

Before going into your third date, you should know whether a person is still trying to get over an ex, is married, or has just been separated. To achieve that, you need to ask

questions regarding all of these. If you can’t do it on your first date, then make sure to

do it on the second date so that you are assured that you are not wasting your time on

him or her.

70. Don’t cloud your judgment.

If you focus too much on the achievements of a person or how much the person is

earning on a monthly basis, it can lead you to make incorrect conclusions about people. Thus, you need to look pass that, so that you would be able to see what the person is really made of. Talk to your date and listen attentively, so that you can see the real person inside.

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51. No sex talks.

No sex talks should be a rule that you need to follow, especially in first dates. This is

because first and second dates are usually the time when you get to know the other

person, who can be your potential boyfriend or girlfriend. Talking about sex might give

the wrong impression about your intentions, which can make the other person feel

uncomfortable.

52. Be nice.

Being nice can mean a lot of things, especially for a guy. Nice can mean desirable,

normal, presentable, trustable, helpful, or friendly; and, lots of women are actually on

the lookout for the nice guys. Thus, taking note of these things can help you make a

good impression on your dates.

53. What to do with your apartment.

Whether you are a boy or a girl, you need to come up with an apartment that makes you look more mature, especially if you are approaching a stage, where you are planning to invite your date inside. The apartment should be tidy and clean, and it should be free from posters. Instead, decorate your apartment in a more mature way, and get it organized well, so that you can impress your date.

54. Calling him or her.

If he or she gives you their contact number after a date, you should not call them a day

after. Calling just a day after your date is too soon, which can scare your date away. It

gives an impression that you are too eager in listening to his or her voice. Thus, it is

best if you give him or her a call only after 2 to 4 days after you meet them for the first

time.

55. Make memories.

If you are dating the girl of your dreams, make sure to do something that would make

memories. You might be glad that you were able to strike a stimulating conversation

with her at the bar, but it may not be enough for your date to be memorable. To achieve that, you should do something different, such as bringing her to the zoo, to a circus, or even just a nice walk in the park.

56. Dating is discovering.

Dating is actually a stage in a relationship where you would begin to discover certain

things about an individual. Thus, it is best that you have a good conversation with your

date, so that you would be able to know him or her better. Knowing your date better

would offer you a chance to see if you really are compatible or not.

57. Sharing common values.

Dating can provide you a chance to know whether you and your date share common

values. Although sexual chemistry and sharing common interests are two important

things to get started on a relationship, sharing common values is much more important, since it can cultivate a more lasting relationship. Thus, it is best that you take advantage of dating to find out more about it.

58. Dating is not something like a vocation.

Dating is not a vocation. Therefore, one of your main objectives in dating should be to

have fun in meeting new people. It is not something that you need to do in order to have a life. Although there are lots of things that you need to take note of when it comes to dating, it shouldn’t be treated as something that you really need to perform well on. Thus, have some fun, so that you can be yourself in dating.

59. Never date when you are not over your ex.

If you are not over your ex yet, then you should not go on dates. This is because your

emotions can end up destroying all your dates. You might engage into self-pity while

you are talking with your dates, aside from talking all about your ex and his or her

shortcomings. Thus, make sure that you are completely over your ex prior to dating, so

that your potential partners won’t avoid you.

60. Online dating is just one of your options in meeting people.

Many people today engage into online dating, especially those who are quite busy with

their own careers. However, online dating should just be viewed as a way to increasing

your chances of meeting more people whom you may be able to date. Thus, it is just

one of the many options that you have when it comes to that. You should still go out,

and meet new people personally, so that you can have a more interesting life.