Body Language and Attraction Contd

7. Body Pointing

It is true that the body points to where the mind wants to go. The

angles at which people stand when speaking to each other give

us clues as to how they feel or where they want to go.

Open Positioning

Just like with palm gestures, when a person likes you or is

interested in you, they will adopt an open body position. An

open body position can be spotted by looking at the angle

of their body relative to yours.

Typically in friendly encounters, the other person’s body will be

pointing at an angle 45 degrees relative to yours –

subsequently you’ll find that you’re body will be doing the

same.

Closed Positioning

Closed positioning is used when two people want a bit of

intimacy. Their body angle will change from the ‘friendly’ 45

degrees to 0 degrees, i.e. they will face each other. If

someone uses closed positioning with you, it’s a signal that

they like you a lot.

Try taking half a step forward, into their intimate zone – if they

seem uncomfortable with this or they take a step back, don’t

follow.

Leg and Foot Pointing

As stated in the blurb for this section, the body points to where

the mind wants to go. Equally true is that a woman’s feet will

point to the most ‘attractive’ guy in the room, and vice versa

with guys on girls. This same principle applies to leg pointing.

If you watch carefully, you’ll see that a guy’s knee will be

pointed in the direction of the girl he finds most attractive.

We see these principles every day, for example when someone

wants to leave a room, at the very least you’ll see that their feet

point towards the exit.

8. General Flirting and Attraction Gestures

When in the company of the opposite sex, the body language of both

genders will change dramatically. Men will stand a little taller, no

slouching or slumping.

He will also stick his chest out and suck in his stomach – this makes

him appear more dominant, and happens automatically around

someone he likes or has taken a fancy to.

If a woman takes a liking to the described man, she will respond to

his gestures by drawing attention to her breasts, tilting her head,

touching her hair, and exposing her wrists – thus making her appear

submissive.

There are of course, more deliberate flirting and attraction gestures,

but these are gestures made consciously, whereas the ones

described above are automatic, and made subconsciously.

9. Attraction Gestures Used by Men

Compared to women, men don’t have a large repertoire of attraction

gestures. When a man likes a woman, he will use gestures that

emphasize his masculinity.

The common gestures used by men are the expanding of the chest,

straightening of the back and pulling the stomach in. He’ll also adjust

his clothing or touch his hair.

Men typically use their thumbs to display dominance and masculinity;

subsequently a man will tuck his thumbs into his belt, pointing them at

his crotch to emphasize his manhood.

10. Attraction Gestures Used by Women

Fortunately for guys, women send out a whole plethora of signs and

signals to let him know she’s interested in him. Unfortunately for

women, many men are slow on the uptake, completely oblivious to

the signs and signals she is sending out. What makes things worse

is that women sometimes send out mixed signals, to manipulate men

into showing how they feel about her – this often leaves men

confused and subsequently, they won’t try to approach her.

When a woman looks around a room and sees a man she’s

interested in, she’ll often send a gaze his way until she catches his

eye. During this first look she typically holds his eye contact for 23

seconds, and then she looks away. Women may then perform other

gestures to show interest in her chosen guy.

A woman will use something known as the ‘Hair Flick’ around a guy

she fancies. This gesture involves flicking the hair over her shoulder

or away from the face. Even women with short hair use this

gesture.

Another gesture to watch out for is the ‘self touch’. When a woman

slowly and sensually strokes her thigh or neck she implies that if the

man plays his cards right, he may be able to touch her in these

ways too.

The limp wrist is seen as a submission signal by many men, and as

such is used by women everywhere to make a guy feel that he could

dominate her. The limp wrist gesture is often used for maximum

effect when fondling a cylindrical object.

A similar gesture to the limp wrist is also used by women to reel in a

man. This gesture is known as the ‘exposed neck’, and is exactly as

the name says – the woman will tilt her head to one shoulder,

exposing her neck to the man. This gesture is seen by men as

submissive in much the same way as the limp wrist.

11. Single?

When people see someone they like, sometimes the only thing

holding them back from making an approach is the thought

that maybe their crush isn’t single. Imagine this scenario:

An attractive girl sees a group of people standing across the room

from her at a bar. She has her eye on one of the guys in the group,

and uses the gazing technique to let him know she’s interested.

He’s a bit slow on the uptake or maybe just a little nervous, so she

decides that maybe its time to go over there and give him an

opportunity to talk to her. At the same time this occurs, she notices

that her crush is standing next to another attractive girl, who seems to

be part of the group.

This throws the question “Are these two together?” So should she

stay where she is, or still go over to his area?

Personal Territory It is a scientific fact that the closer two people are emotionally, the closer they will stand, sit, or lie next to each other. Imagine a bubble around each and every person. This bubble encompasses the person and a small surrounding area. To that person, everything inside that bubble is ‘theirs’, and is known as their ‘Personal Space’. The size of this personal space varies a little from person to person but doesn’t differ to a great degree.

When two people are very close i.e. Lovers, Parents, Spouses, Close

Friends, Children, they will stand for the majority within 1545

centimeters of each other. Only those who are emotionally close to

us may enter this space and anyone else who enters may make the

person feel intimidated and take a step back from the invader.

Touch and Personal Claim

People touch or lean against something that they feel is theirs. For

example a person will sometimes lean on their walls at home, but

wouldn’t dream of being invited into a stranger’s house then leaning

on their walls. Lovers will hold hands, brush each other’s arms, or

‘tidy’ their partner up by brushing imaginary lint off their partner’s

shoulder.

One of the most unmistakable signals made by women to show claim

to a man is when she places her flat palm on his chest. Similarly a

man will place his hand on his partner’s waist or back.

The key things to remember here is that we touch things that we feel

are ours, and we do this in a variety of ways. Watch for the slightest

touches, fingers, arms, or even feet.

12. Recap

Although body language is universal in its meanings, it really is very

easy to get confused or mixed up when reading people’s body

language. As mentioned at the beginning of this Writeup, practice

makes perfect and the more you practice reading body language,

the easier it will become. Always remember to read gestures in

groups, and always remember to take into account the environment

around the person you are reading.

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